Well, part of my 'life change' is going to have to be the dinner time. I've discussed it with Prince Charming and he agrees, however there is no follow through… same expectations of a formal sit down dinner complete with salad and side dishes.
I need to avoid dinner, and left to my own devices, I can eat a salad or something light at 4:00 pm and be done for the evening. I do it whenever I can… and most times everyone is doing there own thing anyway, so I can feed them early and be done with the kitchen and stay out of that particular danger zone. Except for when it comes to him.
I totally get it that he works all day and would like dinner when he gets home and wants me to prepare it, I don't even think that it is out of the realm to expect. The only problem is that he also gets perturbed when we don't all eat together as a family… I have to break it to him gently at about 4 or 5 pm that the evening activities mean that I have to feed the girls early (READ: no 'formal' dinner).
Studies have shown that kids that eat at least one meal together as a family are more successful… and for years we've done it and I do think the kids are the better for it–I'm just the fatter for it as well. I overeat at the family table and even worse when cleaning up, I sometimes finish small portion leftovers (on top of 'tasting' as I cook).
I totally blame myself for lack of self control, but until I lose significant weight, I'd like to feed the kids at 5:00 (by the way, when they begin to snack to make it to the 6:30-7:00 pm dinner). But that leaves PC to forage, because when I feed them early, it is generally whatever they want to eat (and not generally the same thing for both) so I don't do the whole 'meat, side dish, etc.' that he can have an hour or so later, he has to start from scratch.
His heavy sighs can be heard from the next county (he comes home and there are dishes in the sink or no dinner started… because I am still working on the computer, I work sometimes till 9-10pm). He denies the sighing, so maybe he isn't aware of it, but it grates on my every last nerve (…cutting myself with something rusty…). So for now, I am going to just suck it up and try for at least 2 times a week we ditch the 'family' dinner… he obviously needs to be eased into this concept.